Taryn_S asked:
He picks them up and drops them off. We agreed to this because of his domestic violence towards me. He knows he will go to jail if he see me. Well our court order from our divorce judge says Im suppose to pick them up. We…ll since yesterday he has been on a crazy rampage towards me. He wants me to pick up the kids. I have not seen him in 3 months and I am very scared. Gilbert PD will not help me or give me an escort and Im not sure why. I am scared and I need to get them at 5 because he will not bring them home. He wants a confrontation. Can anyone give me any help or suggestions on what I could do
He has been arrested over 20 times the court knows everyone knows no one cares. Got a restraining order and he foiught it and won. He tells me hes going to kill me one day im sure he will
Can someone around here help me? My ex-husband has visitation from Sat at 5pm until Sunday at 5pm.?
February 14th, 2010 | Escorts
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Do you have a friend that can go with you so you feel a little safer? If you can’t find anyone, knock on one of his neighbors doors and ask them to please keep an eye on you while you get your kids. Don’t go in the house, let him have the kids meet you at the front door. Keep your cell phone handy or better yet, be on the phone with someone while you’re picking them up so he knows you have a witness even if it’s just on the phone. He’ll also see you have a phone and can call the police if you have to.
Do what you are ordered to by court. Keep your phone in hand and don’t go inside.
I would go to the house with someone. Call him when you are 10 mins from the house letting him know that you are on your way to get them and ask him to send them out to you. Tell him you will call him when you get there. If he won’t send them out once you get there, then I would call the police and tell them that you are there following court orders but that he is refusing to release them to you. Bring all your paperwork and court orders. I would not go into the house if there is a restraining order between you. Keep your distance.
Take a friend parent or acquaintance. Don’t get out of the car tell him that you will pull up and honk and the kids can come out to the car. If you have the proof of his violence you should see about removing his visitation rights if you fear him that much.
If the court order says that you have to pick them up then unfortunately he doesn’t legally have to drop them off.
Has he threatened you? If he has threatened you I would contact the police again and demand an escort. If he hasn’t exactly threatened you but you are scared because you know what he is like then even though you fears may very well be justified, you might not have a leg to stand on in getting the police to intervene.
If this is the case, I suggest you take someone with you, a friend or family member( probably female so it doesn’t aggravate the situation).. That way you he may be less likely to harm you. And if he does, you have someone to call for help and a witness for a protection order.
I suggest after you get your children you apply to have pick ups and drop offs done by a third party. If you have evidence of his past abuse you should be able to have it granted.
It also may help to call the domestic violence hot line to see if they have any suggestions on what you can do to get your children back without risking your safety.
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